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Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

21 hours ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Watermelon_61508 🇪🇬

3 weeks ago

Feeling Heartbroken

I had a fight with my sister and she said really hurtful things. It's not our first or biggest fight even what she said isn't new but something about today's fight made her words ring especially true. Maybe because she knew what to say exactly and how to deliver her words in a way that will cause th

Avocado_61070 🇺🇸

3 weeks ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Orange_40211 🇲🇦 hey..I’ve been through something similar, so I really feel what you're going through. It’s not easy at all, but I’ve learned that sometimes life removes people from our path so we can find ourselves again..Focusing on myself..my peace, growth, and the little things that make me happy..helped me slowly heal. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it just means choosing yourself and your peace..

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hey everyone, I dont believe my situation is common, that's why I'm writing this just to here everyone's opinion.
i have been in a 2 year relation with a girl that I loved the most, I gave her everything I could, we are both 20, but the problem, is that I'm a us citizen and she's not. 
after trump got to office, and ice started their deportation activities, her dad decided to go back to his country cus he's so tired of all those situations, and low payment jobs.
Basically she'll stay alone, that's why, her dad and other people adviced her to marry someone else just as a business for papers.
I'm 20, not stable financially and I dont meet the financial requirements to give my spouse papers.
So, who decided to marry her? A friend from her job offered that. He started flirting with her, calling her love, and one day told her idc about your bf, she let him be, cus he is the only option. Everything was cool until her alpastor (pastor/priest) told her that if we dont take a step back from our relationship, the government will discover that everything is fake and it will be bad. 
Anyways I understood, eventhough it was hard. just a day after our breakup, that guy told her that he likes her, she felt disappointed but let it go, between those time, they opened so much to each others, started going out, he go to her house daily and spend time with her family, everything was just aa friends to her, but he reached a point that the guy talked to her sexually and tried to kiss her.
Here, she decided to stop everything, with an afraidness of being deported, so she kept him as a friend and told me, maybe she likes him, she doesn't know, she's confused, but it doesn’t matter cus she loves and it's different. 
Yes it did hurt me and all, but psychologically, there was explanations to her actions, and he was only a distraction nothing else. 
two days ago, her pastor called her again, and told her, if she doesn't do the process, he saw that she'll hey deported, and she has to let me go, and if I wanna stay, it has to only be a business.

so now, I'm just letting her go, trying to live my life just as a friend with her, but it really burns and costing me pain.

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Nutella_61022 🇺🇸

3 weeks ago

Feeling Heartbroken

how can I move on from my ex even I've fiancée ? I Can't get out what He did it how I was down while he's having his life with his new girlfriend (he was my fiancée) he's now trying to reach to me but I refused to have any connections with him said iam engaged now I don't want any connection with hi

Coffee_58158 🇪🇬

1 month ago

Feeling Drained

it absolutely does, always remember my memories with people who are no longer here and just breaks my heart and i was sometimes i can forget everything but also sometimes i appreciate those memories but it just make me miss them more

Marshmallow_51920 🇯🇴

1 month ago

Feeling Alone

I had a dream that felt so real. It was you holding me like it was the most natural thing in the world, like we’d done it a thousand times before. I woke up miserable. Missing you. Wishing I could fall back asleep just to feel your arms around me one more time.

Watermelon_52431 🇪🇬

3 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

she friend-zoned me .. i know.. she made it clear tbh but i still fell for her she is just way too perfect and i am too hurt .. never confessed oc she got in and out of relationship multiple times and i am frozen whenever i try to see a girl I instantly compare it to her and get turned off

Durian_52455 🇪🇬 Thank her ‘cause she did a big favor for you. she didn’t OVERACT. She was realistic with you. She RESPECT your emotions. She didn’t play some love Games with u.

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Avocado_52276 🇮🇳

5 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Been Married for 5 years. He was jobless and I taken care of all his needs for five years. Been betrayed in many ways throughout the journey and still I sticked with him. But later when I found out that he is involved with another women also, that was the breaking point. And I applied for divorce, s

Cookies_33963 🇸🇦

8 months ago

Feeling Emotional

(part3) again, don't think anyone will read or understand.. but it was in my notes and it's hard not to be heard. 8 my heart is hurting so hard i wish i could make it stop i like this that i am just writing in your chat then deleting like nothing ever happened i feel like talking to you somehow but

Cookies_33963 🇸🇦

8 months ago

Feeling Drained

(part2).. I also don't think that anyone would care to read nor understand but it has been in my notes and its devastating to feel unheard ////// a lost , hopeless , and forever closed cause i miss you like crazy and i wish things hadnt come down the way they did.... i still am thinking about you

Tofu_29255 🇪🇬

8 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

healing isn't easy as i thought, I've been always strong and have emotion intelligence that i can move on fast and i have high coping mechanism but i don't why this time not like others I can't move on I'm not able to go back to who i was before happy, optimistic, cheerful . i used to block anyon

Mushroom_21826 🇳🇬

10 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

am greatly attracted to someone which makes me but he is an introvert who can't receprocate. i go crazy and completely useless if i don't talk to him in a day. buh he doesn't pick or replies chat and he is very rude and unapologetic about it. buh i keep calling just to keep me sane. am losing my dig

Coconut_21578 🇹🇳

10 months ago

Feeling Confused

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There's this guy named muneer, he's from india, i knew him from ablo ( a social media app more than a dating app) okay, we've been talking, i was always cold to him, sometimes i show him that i care about him, (just for the plot) then, in time, he confessed to me, he said that he liked me,i expected it but i acted like i didn't even knew about it.. I said no, let's be friends, just friends, nothing more.. We kept talking like now for more than 2 years now.. And now, he's getting married in 8days.. And i'm happy for him, but the thing is that i'm afraid that what i did to him is coming back to me with this other guy, named adem, from turkey, we met on azar (a dating app), since february 2022.. We were video calling for like one week maybe, daily, 2hours a day minimum.. It was fun.. He asked me let's video call, i send him that i'm busy with some photos.. And he as well he tells me what he's doing.. After, it was going to fade.. And then, we were just talking in random days and times and that's how it really went.. Till 13 july 2023, i sent him a long message that i loved him, and he said, i love you too, it's always good to have people love me.. And then, we stopped.. On 2nd of junuary 2024, i sent him a happy new year message and then, i told him i got something to say.. And then, he said go ahaid, i'm curious to know.. So i told him that i remember i said that i liked you, but i didn't it was just a crush.. And he said that i thought it was a normal love that anyone can get, not romantically, and i remember that i said i love you too.. And i said no you didn't say that actually, you just said, it's good to have someone who love me, thank you.. And then, i said, for me it's over and for you it never started, and that's totally okay.. And i asked him if he has something to say.. He said, i love you, and you love me too, but i think we should never got a further idea in our head because we're so different persons, and that i' m the only arap girl he enjoyed talking to.. and things like that.. And i reacted 😂 to his message, and said, all i can say is that i liked you despite these things you've mentioned.. And since that we got no contact.. The day before ramadan, i remember we were talking normally, after, i tried to text him to say ramadan kareem, so i double and triple texting him, but he didn't answer, not even see the messages.. Again, on 30april 2024, on his birthday, i tried to send him a happy birthday message, but in vain.. Till that day, i don't know what if he's alive, dead... Oh yeah, he's alive :).. I szw him reacting on an instagram post. Not gonna lie, it was good to see him reacting and active on some of these posts.. At least he's there.. Oh yeah, b1ck in time when i was unable to get over adem, on ramadan, march 2024, i was using another dating app "meeff" As i told you, i'm on a dating app.. There's this korean guy, He liked my profile first and then i liked him back.. We started talking, this took place on march of this year, while we were talking on telegram, i sent him a message on his insta asking him about living in korea, and he was open to talk, he asked if i had a bf or no.. So i said no and i blocked him (talking to him using my fake acc).. After few days maybe, and it was on ramadan, he asked me what we do in this month, i told him, as a muslim, we need to do fasting, he said i'll try it, he litteraly fasts the day after we talked about it.. After few times, when we're talking he said i really like you, i can tell that you're a good person from the way you text me, and i want to be in a relationship with you, (less than a week since we've met).. I told him, we need to get to know each other better and to make sure about our feelings and thoughts.. Etc.. He said let's be in a relationship and after we can get to know each other, we still have time,the most important is that we are in the same page.. Not gonna lie i said okay, two days after maybe, he asked me to let him buy anything for me as a gift for his girlfriend, he said that he's jalous of his friends buying things to their girlfriends and he's unable to do it, he asked me about my adress to send me stuff, i said no, i can't accept anything from anyon.. At the end of the discussion, i told him, to buy them and when he came to tunisia, he can bring them with him.. (still in the month of march).. In some days we talk peacefully, maybe twice, he didn't send me a text for a day.. And that hurts me.. So i decided to talk to him whe he's back, and he said i got a bad wifi and internet connection.. So, okay i forgave him and said he'q going to change his place of work for better internet.. (on april), he asked me to buy  an iTunes cause it's not available in his city, card because he nees it in his work.. I told him okay, i'll look for it, he thanks me, after i told him i didn't get one, i can get it in the mall, he said, can't you go buy it for me ? I said no, it's 600km away.. After some time, i asked him what happened with the iTunes, he said i got it, one of my friends from usa has bought it for me.. I said thanks god, it's been solved.. Oh yeah, i didn't tell you about this, at first, he said i want to try a long distance relationship, and get a foreigner girlfriend.. After, i asked him if he really love me, or he's with me just because he wants to try a long distance relationship.. He said not for that.. I genuinely love you, why can't you believe me ? After a few hours, he texted me saying that he's making plans to visit , my country, just to show how serious he is, bringing me the gifts he already bought for me and that he said he's willing to meet my family and he's planning to stay for a month.. I was happy, not gonna lie, but at the same time, i was afraid.. Because i can't trust him.. The day after, i told him that i talked with my sister about you, he was like wow, and what did she said, i told him, she was like how can you trust him ? He just wanted to experience a long distance relationship, he said it directly.. He was angry, and said and what do you think ? I said we need to have more time, we need to make sure what we think and what we really want.. He said, okay, i'll let you manage everything.. We stayed like for a day without talking, he was angry not gonna lie.. I said sorry to him for making him feel upset or frustrated.. And then, we were okay.. Days goes by, he stoped texting me for like 2days maybe.. And then he was like hi baby😭.. And i was like.. Oh look who's back ! It's you!.. He saisd, sorry i got some problems at my work.. He lost his job and his company's money.. And i don't know what to do.. I started to support him psychologically, he said i appreciate your presence, after he said i want to to afford me some money, i need you and i know that it's my job as a boyfriend to afford the money for his girlfriend not the inverse.. I told him that i can't because i don't have the much amount of money you need.. He said it's okay for now, you just can give me whatever and i won't forget your help.. I said no i can't give you the money i get from my family.. I want to be trustworthy.. And here we started to get an argument he said you always do what your family say, if they say we have to break up, you'll break up with me.. You need to do things for your love.. And i said, if it's my money, i'll do it.. But now, i don't have my money, my personal money, so it's not mine and i can't give it to anyone else, not only you, anyone.. And then we broke up, he said, when you end speaking, get me out of your DMs.. and i didn't, so we did the after, he get me out of his DMs. (end of the story, 18 april, 2024) [i can't believe i forgot the day we already started talking]

Anyway, what do you think about this situation ?

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Cherry_20028 🇵🇭

11 months ago

Feeling Fed up

my bf cheated on me two weeks ago and there are some things that im very confused about. can anyone please chat me so i could explain it better?

Potato_19614 🇪🇬

1 year ago

Feeling Ashamed

When you go away I still see you..</3

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