emotional abuse

Cherry_73516 🇭🇷

1 month ago

Feeling Irritated

I don't know who to talk to about it. I feel weak and pathetic. My mom has always had anger issues, but I never thought about how she forms narratives. She brought random shit up, popped three separate events into one, mixed up the chronology and now the whole thing sounds way worse than it was. Fun

Cherry_73516 🇭🇷

2 months ago

Feeling Drained

I really don't know anymore. I have a problem with someone. She always nit picks problems. Even tho everything is fine, she'll always find a way to create some. At this point I feel like she just feeds off negativity. She will say she hates being angry but lacks the self awareness of realising that

Avocado_73502 🇪🇬 i feel sorry for you

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Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

3 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Cherry_25285 🇩🇿

1 year ago

Feeling Lost

i met him 4y ago and I've fallen in love with him since the first date, i thought that we will be together but he doesnt like being in relationships, he wanted us to get engaged but my dad didnt accept cause i was young, so we got stuck in a situationship for 3y, i loved him from the bottom of my he

Hazelnut_22040 🇪🇬 It won't be the last time you'll have anxiety and no one deserves to be stuck in a relationship that will sooner or later consume you.

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Pear_12697 🇪🇬

1 year ago

Feeling Not great 😕

Toxic relationships

Avocado_13457

1 year ago

Feeling Okay 😐

hello, seeking relationship advice all started when i first entered the college,apple (guy1)was very fond of me as a friend..he was so close to me..he loved me secretly without expressing or telling me..while i liked tomato(guy2)and was close to him …apple proposed me and i rejected.he took it pers

Strawberry_4131

1 year ago

Feeling Bad 😞

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for five years of my life. This abusive relationship harmed my self-esteem a lot. It also affected my exam because, during that time, I was preparing for government exams which I was continuously unsuccessful.

Potato_83388 🇩🇿

Never Dated at 23, Is First Love Possible?

I'm a girl and I have 23 All my life I've never dated knowing I could if I wanted to but till now I'm not interested but I wish my men will be like me now I have one question Is there men who never dated too at this age is it really possible to ever be the first love of someone...just asking ...see more

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Lemon_81066 🇩🇿

High asf and can't stand people anymore

I'm high asf I can't stand people anymore i know getting high is wrong but sometimes i get high just to silence the voices inside my head sometimes i feel like I'm gonna turn into a serial killer i start to hate people in this silly country i don't want anything from them iwant them just to leave alone sometimes i feel like i don't belong in this country those people are ridiculously stupid i feel they are worthless i just want to be alone i want them to leave alone ...see more

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Watermelon_83891 🇩🇿

Broke up with my best friend, did I do right?

after joining the colleg i met a girl we was a realy good friends we was very close to each other i was in love with her but she didn’t have the same feelings as me after one year of our friendship i tel her that i love her she said no nicely to be hosnet she said that we don’t have to ruin our friendship we kan stay as we are , i get depressed it was very hard but i said at least i’m close to her and she will love me later after to years of our meeting I lost hope in her and i tell her that we should break up you can’t love and i can’t watch you close and far from me in the same time , this happened 5 days ago and i’m very confused did I choice the right decision i don’t know if there is something else i can do , I can’t stop think about her in every second in my day ...see more

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