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Grape_75256 🇪🇬

1 month ago

Feeling Drained

i feel so numb all the time i hate the way that no body can see how much im going through on a daily basis. every time i think everything is getting better i end up reliving the worst year of my life my heart is full with so many secrets that i can’t share, everything is so bottled up that im scared

Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

2 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Pistachio_29385 🇸🇦

4 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

I left my house with my family today. Near our gate i saw the dentist’s husband. He was standing with some other Pakistani men or smth in uniforms. I didn’t know what they were doing first so I ignored them. I then left to the parking and saw them running after something. I saw their van and it had

Popcorn_52587 🇺🇸 This is against animals. Do not give up and report them because this is not humane. They should have been photographed to prove all of this. If you report it, there will be no evidence against them. I appreciate the sensitivity of the situation. It was difficult, really.

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Potato_19121 🇮🇳

1 year ago

Feeling Angry

hello, im new to this so idk what to say. im in a relationship of 2 months. ive had a lot of traumatic instances involving physical and mental abuse by my father and multiple SA instances by 2 different people. due to this, i get extreme emotions and its really affecting my relationship. i need to b

Lemon_4143

1 year ago

Feeling Not great 😕

During my breakup, I went through an emotional collapse. I told my boyfriend about a previous instance of domestic violence. He said he was fine with it but then he started avoiding me. He made me question

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