I'm tired of my cold-hearted boyfriend's empty promises

Question

i'm tired , i'm just going throught a lot and i cannot talk it out even if i'm trying right now it seems so hard to do , i'm in a serious relationship of 3 years with a person that i met 5 years ago tht was my bestfriend and we ended up being together , he always claims that he loves me and he does actually but the way he treats me makes me crazy , he is so cold hearted and i'm suffering from cevere depression and he is aware lf it , and he's the one who told me that he'll be with me and help me in that case , he did the perfect opposit , i just can't with that anymore because he can't let me go and i love him so much but he never wanna changes , even when i tell him wjat triggers my anxiety and anger he says that he won't again and that he does again

Cheese_79373 🇩🇿 · Accepted Answer

actions speak louder than words hun if he’s telling u that he loves u and his actions say otherwise u should leave u deserve better and u have nothing to do with that long time if he’s not making u better he’s just adding to ur pain it’s gonna be hard for u at first but trust me u’ll be completely fine better don’t waste more time better late than never ❤️

Kiwi_79768 🇩🇿 · Answer

omg im literally going through it , i actually found out he was manipulating me becaused i cared about him too much , now i just friend zoned him and we dont talk 24/7 like we used to , and i hope i lose more feelings for him enaugh to move on , i hope u do the same

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

the thing is that we do love eachother it's just that idk i can't understand his behaviour and i'm always trying to explain and he does good attentions but whenever i have panic attacks or anxiety he just does nothing about it he keeps saying that he's meanin wtv he says and rhat he panicks when im in that situation and the thing now is that i'm toooo tired to make him understand my case

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

im doing this over and over whatever happens to me i feel that he's just cold even wjen i hurt myself i feel that he's fakin it it's either this or he doesn't give a F / i feel rhat he's bever worried

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

im scared to be alone again it hurts me bc he loves me ik bur his behaviour says smt else / m so sorry for you girly please courage you'll find better!!!

Cheese_79373 🇩🇿 · Answer

sweetheart love isn’t enough u can love each other but still not good for each other if u know what I mean if u don’t change or try hard that love will consume u till u can’t handle the situation anymore maturing is realizing that there are a lot of things more important than just love

Pineapple_80421 🇩🇿 · Answer

you don't need a source of additional anxiety at the moment, I understand that you love him but I suggest you take a break from him right now, it will give you mental space to rethink your situation, and your relationship, and he needs to feel your absence, just like you felt his. you said he wouldn't let you go, be firm, tell him you need to care for yourself and do it.

Cheese_79373 🇩🇿 · Answer

I have anxiety ,anger issues  , panic attacks I do knw what u actually feeling î’ve been too in a relationship with a person who was completely in love with me but he has issues that relationship consumed me even therapy didn’t help so please choose urself u deserve the world

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

i feel so glad that i met someone that actually feels me , girl trust me i'm just so exhausted i trusted him he said i'm here and i understand your feeling and i accept your anger and anxiety and whatever and i felt myself with him but he never applies his words and he's adding more and more to me and he cannot let me go , the problem is that even I can't let him go im too attached to him

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

i don't even have friends because they said i give negativity ; they never see that i always do my best but anyways idgaf bt them . im attached too much attached to him and i feel like i wanna chabge but i just can't do the move

Cherry_80972 🇩🇿 · Answer

uk i can't even take care of myself i stopped skincare etc im not eatin even my clothes! i feel to lazy to change em kima y9olo rani fle point final tae la depression and kolma nehkilo he ltrly cries psk nghido and then he does the same f hedik la situ.

Avocado_80704 🇩🇿 · Answer

take a break you're in toxique relationship