I feel like a horrible person for ruining my sister's life

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I feel like a horrible person. the only time I try to put myself first before others I feel like I ruined my sister's life
she often asks me to get out even though I try to explain I don't want to go somewhere where there is alot of people because of my social anxiety and today I finally told her no because I was really overwhelmed and really didn't want to go outside and she decided not to study and her exam is in a few weeks and she's retaking 12th grade for the 3rd time. I ruined her life I could've encouraged her (she wanted to go out to study in a cafe) but now she threw herself on bed and she was very excited but now sounds depressed.

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 · Accepted Answer

Saying no doesn’t make you selfish — it means you’re setting healthy boundaries.
Your sister’s reaction isn’t your fault; she has to learn to handle disappointment too.
Be gentle with yourself, and maybe offer her support in a way that doesn’t overwhelm yo

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 · Answer

You’re not a bad person — you’re just taking care of your own mental health, and that’s valid.
Your sister is responsible for her own choices, even if she was disappointed.
Try to comfort her with some kind words, remind her you care, and maybe find a compromise that works for both of you.

Apple_60048 🇺🇸 · Answer

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Coffee_60128 🇺🇸 · Answer

you are good person .. don't blame yourself.. try to think of (Not everything happened is your fault)