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There's this guy named muneer, he's from india, i knew him from ablo ( a social media app more than a dating app) okay, we've been talking, i was always cold to him, sometimes i show him that i care about him, (just for the plot) then, in time, he confessed to me, he said that he liked me,i expected it but i acted like i didn't even knew about it.. I said no, let's be friends, just friends, nothing more.. We kept talking like now for more than 2 years now.. And now, he's getting married in 8days.. And i'm happy for him, but the thing is that i'm afraid that what i did to him is coming back to me with this other guy, named adem, from turkey, we met on azar (a dating app), since february 2022.. We were video calling for like one week maybe, daily, 2hours a day minimum.. It was fun.. He asked me let's video call, i send him that i'm busy with some photos.. And he as well he tells me what he's doing.. After, it was going to fade.. And then, we were just talking in random days and times and that's how it really went.. Till 13 july 2023, i sent him a long message that i loved him, and he said, i love you too, it's always good to have people love me.. And then, we stopped.. On 2nd of junuary 2024, i sent him a happy new year message and then, i told him i got something to say.. And then, he said go ahaid, i'm curious to know.. So i told him that i remember i said that i liked you, but i didn't it was just a crush.. And he said that i thought it was a normal love that anyone can get, not romantically, and i remember that i said i love you too.. And i said no you didn't say that actually, you just said, it's good to have someone who love me, thank you.. And then, i said, for me it's over and for you it never started, and that's totally okay.. And i asked him if he has something to say.. He said, i love you, and you love me too, but i think we should never got a further idea in our head because we're so different persons, and that i' m the only arap girl he enjoyed talking to.. and things like that.. And i reacted 😂 to his message, and said, all i can say is that i liked you despite these things you've mentioned.. And since that we got no contact.. The day before ramadan, i remember we were talking normally, after, i tried to text him to say ramadan kareem, so i double and triple texting him, but he didn't answer, not even see the messages.. Again, on 30april 2024, on his birthday, i tried to send him a happy birthday message, but in vain.. Till that day, i don't know what if he's alive, dead... Oh yeah, he's alive :).. I szw him reacting on an instagram post. Not gonna lie, it was good to see him reacting and active on some of these posts.. At least he's there.. Oh yeah, b1ck in time when i was unable to get over adem, on ramadan, march 2024, i was using another dating app "meeff" As i told you, i'm on a dating app.. There's this korean guy, He liked my profile first and then i liked him back.. We started talking, this took place on march of this year, while we were talking on telegram, i sent him a message on his insta asking him about living in korea, and he was open to talk, he asked if i had a bf or no.. So i said no and i blocked him (talking to him using my fake acc).. After few days maybe, and it was on ramadan, he asked me what we do in this month, i told him, as a muslim, we need to do fasting, he said i'll try it, he litteraly fasts the day after we talked about it.. After few times, when we're talking he said i really like you, i can tell that you're a good person from the way you text me, and i want to be in a relationship with you, (less than a week since we've met).. I told him, we need to get to know each other better and to make sure about our feelings and thoughts.. Etc.. He said let's be in a relationship and after we can get to know each other, we still have time,the most important is that we are in the same page.. Not gonna lie i said okay, two days after maybe, he asked me to let him buy anything for me as a gift for his girlfriend, he said that he's jalous of his friends buying things to their girlfriends and he's unable to do it, he asked me about my adress to send me stuff, i said no, i can't accept anything from anyon.. At the end of the discussion, i told him, to buy them and when he came to tunisia, he can bring them with him.. (still in the month of march).. In some days we talk peacefully, maybe twice, he didn't send me a text for a day.. And that hurts me.. So i decided to talk to him whe he's back, and he said i got a bad wifi and internet connection.. So, okay i forgave him and said he'q going to change his place of work for better internet.. (on april), he asked me to buy  an iTunes cause it's not available in his city, card because he nees it in his work.. I told him okay, i'll look for it, he thanks me, after i told him i didn't get one, i can get it in the mall, he said, can't you go buy it for me ? I said no, it's 600km away.. After some time, i asked him what happened with the iTunes, he said i got it, one of my friends from usa has bought it for me.. I said thanks god, it's been solved.. Oh yeah, i didn't tell you about this, at first, he said i want to try a long distance relationship, and get a foreigner girlfriend.. After, i asked him if he really love me, or he's with me just because he wants to try a long distance relationship.. He said not for that.. I genuinely love you, why can't you believe me ? After a few hours, he texted me saying that he's making plans to visit , my country, just to show how serious he is, bringing me the gifts he already bought for me and that he said he's willing to meet my family and he's planning to stay for a month.. I was happy, not gonna lie, but at the same time, i was afraid.. Because i can't trust him.. The day after, i told him that i talked with my sister about you, he was like wow, and what did she said, i told him, she was like how can you trust him ? He just wanted to experience a long distance relationship, he said it directly.. He was angry, and said and what do you think ? I said we need to have more time, we need to make sure what we think and what we really want.. He said, okay, i'll let you manage everything.. We stayed like for a day without talking, he was angry not gonna lie.. I said sorry to him for making him feel upset or frustrated.. And then, we were okay.. Days goes by, he stoped texting me for like 2days maybe.. And then he was like hi baby😭.. And i was like.. Oh look who's back ! It's you!.. He saisd, sorry i got some problems at my work.. He lost his job and his company's money.. And i don't know what to do.. I started to support him psychologically, he said i appreciate your presence, after he said i want to to afford me some money, i need you and i know that it's my job as a boyfriend to afford the money for his girlfriend not the inverse.. I told him that i can't because i don't have the much amount of money you need.. He said it's okay for now, you just can give me whatever and i won't forget your help.. I said no i can't give you the money i get from my family.. I want to be trustworthy.. And here we started to get an argument he said you always do what your family say, if they say we have to break up, you'll break up with me.. You need to do things for your love.. And i said, if it's my money, i'll do it.. But now, i don't have my money, my personal money, so it's not mine and i can't give it to anyone else, not only you, anyone.. And then we broke up, he said, when you end speaking, get me out of your DMs.. and i didn't, so we did the after, he get me out of his DMs. (end of the story, 18 april, 2024) [i can't believe i forgot the day we already started talking]

Anyway, what do you think about this situation ?

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