betrayal

Cookies_33743 🇩🇪

1 week ago

Feeling Depressed

I thank the one who had my back when the drama began Maybe I'll forget who beat the drums of success and who stabbed me with the knives of failure But I won't forget you, because I held onto hope in you

Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

4 weeks ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Avocado_52276 🇮🇳

5 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Been Married for 5 years. He was jobless and I taken care of all his needs for five years. Been betrayed in many ways throughout the journey and still I sticked with him. But later when I found out that he is involved with another women also, that was the breaking point. And I applied for divorce, s

Mango_11276 🇶🇦

8 months ago

Feeling Drained

I lost the ability to trust for some reason, idk why but everytime someone is showing me genuine love and loyalty, I keep thinking they’re doing something behind my back, or maybe I’m being betrayed and I’m not aware of it, is this normal?

Mango_28521 🇪🇬

9 months ago

Feeling Disappointed

I'm an introvert human and i always prefer to have less friends but close to me and lately i had or maybe still have , IDK but that person had all my trust and was the closest one for me and even made a bet on her that she won't let me down and she even called me best friend and that makes sense bec

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Biscuit_26081 🇧🇾

10 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

I met one of my best friend today we did eye contact without any talking and my body started shaking after i remembered all what she did to me 💔 i really wanted to talk to her and our relation back but this is impossible because she didn’t even try to say sorry or try to fix anything and she is to

Avocado_4172

1 year ago

Feeling Not great 😕

I was going out with my friend two days ago, and she made a situation that embarrassed me and affected me to this day. I should blame her or not, knowing that she is my close friend.

Watermelon_4128

1 year ago

Feeling Bad 😞

I found out my husband is cheating on me. He lives a double life. He even have a kid with this other woman the same age as our son. I really think i should leave him. Im concern is about my child. Funny enough he wants me to stay and says he loves me but

French Fries_73516 🇭🇷

She Feeds Off Negativity & Won't Move On

I really don't know anymore. I have a problem with someone. She always nit picks problems. Even tho everything is fine, she'll always find a way to create some. At this point I feel like she just feeds off negativity. She will say she hates being angry but lacks the self awareness of realising that she seeks it out. She'll bring stuff up from 15 years ago and throw it in my face, we could have a normal conversation and she'll just yank it out of nowhere. To her that's normal, to her it's normal that she refuses to move on. People who've been to jail don't get shit brought up like that. Or that moment when everything was fine and then she decides to throw water in my face and tell me that it was satisfying... why the hostility? She can feel however she likes and not that many people bat an eye, but when I snap it's a big deal. I don't really know who's in the wrong anymore. I just really wanted to get this off my chest. I feel like it's unfair but I also feel guilty, like I'm missing the final piece that will tell me if I'm in the wrong or not and it will magically help me move on from this. I feel like I always have to be okay with everything but it's fine if she is sensitive to the whole world. Taking stuff and inconveniences from the past and blowing everything out of proportion. I don't know why anyone treats her like an adult. I want some piece and acceptance from her but that's never going to happen. ...see more

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Toast_62844 🇪🇬

Suicidal thoughts every hour but I know it's not a real fix

How does it feel when you have suicidal thoughts every single hour but you're so sure that you'll never do it one day cuz u just know that's a fake solution and we can't even say that's a solution and ur also not that person, and these thoughts and the idea of being dead immediately, just wont stop showing up into your mind every moment!! ...see more

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Coffee_68646 🇪🇬

Life was comfy, now it's tough—how do I solve it?

The time of the one was comfortable with a lot of noise, strangulation, and icing, now the topic is difficult. I must deal with all countries and the same time remain comfortable, what is the solution and happen, how do you know how to solve it, how do I know what to do, ...see more

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